To: the last psychiatrist (if this were only true)

What is the healthy alternative to narcissism? The problem, as I see it, with the DSM, is that it does not have anything but pathologies/personality flaws and that there has never been a human that can avoid being classified within this obviously slanted classification system. It seems to assume its own objectivity, denying the subjective reality we all live within. Is the DSM narcissistic, psychopathic or just pessimistic?